I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts, Gals on The Go, and they talked about remembering to find the balance in your life--"salad with a side of fries."
This is something I'm still getting better at but struggled a lot with in college. I felt like I always had to be doing something or hanging out with someone and never allowed myself to have me time.
If you're also struggling with this, let me give you a few tips that helped me to find balance in my life.
Especially in college, you're constantly surrounded by your best friends. The first year I joined my sorority I was so excited to have so many opportunities to hang out with people and do things with everyone. This was so good but also so bad for me, lol. I would find myself being afraid to miss out if I didn't hang out with someone or didn't go do something with someone--I'd literally feel guilty sitting in my room alone sometimes.
I'm an introverted extrovert so taking time to recharge my social battery is extremely important for me. I eventually learned that it's okay to say no to plans and that everyone needs time to themselves. I never missed out on anything and no one ever stopped inviting me to hang out--I was over-extending myself for no reason!
When you just start dating or talking to someone you obviously want to spend every free second with them. Eventually, you have to learn to balance your time between that person, yourself and your social life which can definitely be a hard adjustment.
Boyfriends are great but best friends are so special to come by! Designating one night a week as a "date night" is a great start to finding a balance in your relationship. This is not me saying only hang out with your significant other once a week LOL just make sure you're also seeing your friends as often as you want and getting time for yourself when you need it.
Some people just can't be by themselves (my dog Marlo is one of those "people"...) which I totally get. Couldn't be me though LOL I feel like I thrive in my social life when I take time for myself. But if you're someone who struggles with being alone here's a list of things you can try to do on your own:
- Go on a run/walk
- Do a workout class
- Do some work at a coffee shop
- Watch a TV show
- Read a book
I hope you take some time for yourself this week and focus on finding your balance :)
P.S. Whats your favorite memory with your friends?